小鹿的家园

日有所思，也有所梦。

我可以说是一个梦多的人，怀孕的时候作梦老生孩子，生完孩子又梦见带孩子的各种小故事。

可是有时候也很奇怪！记得一些不应该还记得的人，梦到一些不应该会梦到的人。

为什么呢？难道还记得，还牵挂，还会有故事？

12月20日去了薇薇新娘拍了婚纱照，选了最便宜的套餐-1716。在销售小姐的提醒下，拍摄当天把该准备好的都准备充分了，我和心心各带了100大洋做差旅用，彼此鼓励一定要管好钱包，哪怕是这100大洋。最后，良心作怪，说什么造型师敬业，奉献50大洋，基本算是管住了钱包。

12月24日选小样，我叫上Alice一同前往，做了非常后悔需要老公买单的事情-被血宰2200元。后悔完还打长途漫游电话要求老公给予安慰，说什么老公你怎么娶了这么笨的老婆啊。老公安慰说“就是啊，不过，以表慰问今晚我带你去看《集结号》吧。”

你说我怎么嫁了一个这么好的老公啊！

典型选摆～～

像往常一样，早上九点我拖着略显笨重的身体经过酒店大堂走向办公室．

＂Jessica,有你的包裹，我待会给你送过去．＂我嘀咕：会是谁给我寄来的包裹呢？没有任何人给我打招呼寄东西给我啊？

包裹送来了，是我的心心寄来的．心心为什么要寄东西给我啊？我迫不及待地打开了包裹，是一盒精美的巧克力，封口处露出了一个小纸条：心心七夕快乐！小心心七夕快乐！巧克力准备好了，期待小心心！

可爱的老公，谢谢你记得这个美好纯洁的日子！你的用心给我带来无比的幸福．想起去年的今天你也给我寄来了好吃的巧克力,想起去年的今天你的文字：＂I chocolate U＂，＂纤云可以弄巧，阿牛可以电话．飞星可以传恨，牛牛可以将思念和爱意寄予文字／书籍／chocolate＂．

晚上回到家一个人，才小心的解开美丽的蝴蝶结，数了数一共有１３颗．我算了算，每天吃上一颗，吃完这盒巧克力我就可以扑入我的心心温暖结实的怀抱．

心心，我挑了一颗小皇冠形状的巧克力，愿我们的小心心带上这样的小皇冠，成为才俊潇洒的王子或者美丽善良的公主！

爱你．．．

Passed over for a job you really want? Hold off throwing in the towel just yet.

"If there's an organization you really want to work for, don't let your first rejection be your defining moment," says Shelia Gray, director of global talent acquisition for International Paper Co., a forest-products manufacturer based in Stamford, Conn. "Continue to pursue the organization."

Within days of being denied a marketing-associate internship at L'Oréal USA Inc. last spring, Andy Rah, 32, urged recruiters in an email to label him a backup candidate. "I said that I was really disappointed because the company was my No. 1 choice and asked them to reconsider me if somebody backs out or if another position opens up," says the M.B.A. at Georgetown University's McDonough School of Business. A week later, the New York-based company retracted its rejection and offered him the job, which he accepted, he says.

Here are four tips for staying on recruiters' radars for new job opportunities.

1. Keep cool following a rejection.

Being turned down for a job can hurt, but avoid expressing anger or resentment toward recruiters, cautions Melissa Shober, general manager at Professional Document Solutions Inc., a Xerox Corp. sales agency based in Fort Collins, Colo. "Some people almost act like you owe them an apology," she says. "You never want to tell recruiters that they were in the wrong."

Ms. Shober says she recalls an email from a candidate accusing her of making a mistake by not hiring her for a sales position. Up until that point, "I was impressed with the gal and thought about calling her back in a few months if a position opened up," she says. "But her email took away that chance."

2. Write a thank-you.

Ms. Gray says she once received a thank-you from a candidate after he'd been denied a director-of-engineering position at a high-tech firm where she was a recruiter. "He acknowledged that it would've been a great company to work for, but that he understood he was not the right person for the particular opportunity," she recalls. "Most recruiters remember great candidates, and that letter kept him top of mind." When another engineering position opened up at the company a few months later, Ms. Gray invited the former candidate to interview for it, and he was subsequently hired, she says.

A thank-you can help reinforce your strong desire to work for a company, adds Jennifer Randolph, vice president, organizational development at Courtroom Television LLC in New York. "Hiring managers want to see how interested you are in the job," she explains. In 2003 a junior marketing executive quit the media company after three days on the job. For a replacement, Ms. Randolph turned to a runner-up who'd called to thank her soon after being rejected in an email. The candidate had made it clear that she really wanted the job, she says.

3. Send friendly reminders.

Keep in touch with recruiters after being passed over for a job, advises Susan McWhirter, staffing manager at InBev USA, a manufacturer and distributor of premium beers. In July she notified three candidates for a junior-level customer-service job that the Norwalk, Conn.-based company was putting the position on hold. One candidate followed up in an email about a month later, she says. Coincidentally, the company was ready to fill the position around that time, and he was offered the job. "This was someone who just kept us informed of his status and interest level in the company," notes Ms. McWhirter. "He asked us to consider him in the future and we did."

In some cases, following up may require several calls or emails over time, says Ms. Shober. One a month is sufficient, she says. A job hunter who was denied a sales position at Professional Document Solutions in March called Ms. Shober once a month for three months afterward. "She took a risk again and again, which showed determination and confidence," she says. "She was professional and polite, each time thanking me for taking her call." When the company later decided to create a new sales position, the former candidate was offered the job, and she accepted, says Ms. Shober.

4. Request feedback.

Following a rejection, ask interviewers for advice on how you could have performed better, suggests Andrea Hough, senior vice president, recruiting manager, at Wachovia Corp., a banking institution based in Charlotte, N.C. "You might say, 'If I were to show up again, what would you want me to do differently?' That demonstrates a sincere interest in personal development and career progression," she explains.

Be professional, even if you don't like what you hear, warns Ms. Hough. She recalls a candidate for a middle-management position who took issue with feedback he'd received after being declined a job. "He started to argue some of the developmental points, which showed a lack of maturity and a true lack of commitment for personal development," she says. He might have gotten the job had he reacted differently, she adds, because the winning candidate declined it. 

Four Questions to Ask a Potential Manager

Happiness on the job sometimes comes down to one person: Your manager.

Your manager can matter more than money, title or benefits. People don't always quit jobs, they sometimes quit bosses. Many workers leave a position because they're unhappy with their bosses.

On the other hand, if you genuinely like and respect your boss, your job can be rewarding, fulfilling and even fun. But how can you ensure that you and your potential boss will get along?

While there are no guarantees, you can often recognize a boss who's right for you -- if you ask the right questions.

Do you want to know what your potential manager will expect from you?

Ask her, "What's your ideal employee like?"

If her ideal employee works long hours on a regular basis, expect to do the same.

If her ideal employee is someone who never questions procedure, don't plan to arrive and immediately implement new ideas.

If her ideal employee works independently, rest assured that you won't be micro-managed.

You're likely to be happier on the job if you and your potential manager have similar working styles. After all, everyone deserves a manager who thinks that they're the ideal employee.

The Skinny on the Staff

You can tell a lot about your potential manager from his staff.

Ask him, "Can you tell me about the people I'd be working with? How long have you worked with them?"

Pay attention to how well your potential boss seems to know his staff. Can he list their individual accomplishments? Is he proud of them?

Note his tone and energy when he talks about his team. Does he sound upbeat and positive? Or is there a hint of frustration or disappointment in his voice?

Also note how long his staff has worked with him. High turnover can be a red flag, and happy employees are more likely to stay put.

Results and Rewards

Do you want to excel on the job? If so, then you need to know how a potential manager defines excellence.

Ask her, "How do you measure success on the job?"

You may be accountable to complete projects to deadline and under budget. Or perhaps you'll need to reach a certain benchmark in your performance, for example a dollar value in revenue or a percentage of satisfied customers.

You should also ask about the typical career path for an employee who successfully meets his goals. After all, you want to work for a manager who recognizes and rewards excellence.

A Problem Solved

Sooner or later, a problem will arise. And you need to know how a potential manager will handle it.

Ask him, "What's your approach to solving problems?"

Knowing how a potential manager solves problems can give you insight into his management style. Does he prefer to take charge and make a decision independently? Does he delegate the decision to a staff member? Or does he favor a more collaborative style of problem solving?

Finally, keep in mind that a potential boss' overall attitude toward answering questions can be very telling about his management style. If he's open to questions and answers thoughtfully, he's likely also open to exploring and improving his working relationships. And that's one quality that makes for a great manager.  

 

相遇一定是一种魔咒，让我甘于被你看守.
记得当初你的一举一动，记得你阳光般的温柔.

重逢是魔咒中的魔咒，让我再也无法回头.
从此跟着你的身影旋转，时而快乐时而忧愁.

你成为我的幸运我的主宰，你医治我心上所有的伤口.
为了你我将充满笑容，报答你在我身边扮演小丑.

每当我掉下眼泪的时候，每当我生气不语皱着眉头.
心里的感受我说不出口，其实我最怕你飘然远走.

患得患失都是为了你，骄傲自尊全部都失守.
这样的感情让我害怕，但是我绝对不会逃走.

爱你的心注定是依旧，爱你的情注定要长久.
尽管相遇是一种魔咒，幸福却因它从此拥有！  

近些年来，在国外传入的早教概念的熏陶和就学竞争的压力下，国内的父母们已经越来越有早教意识。而目前从日本兴起、风靡东南亚的“右脑开发”理论，也传入了我国，让无数父母狂热追逐。那么“右脑开发”究竟开发了孩子什么潜能？它是否适合中国的孩子？中国的家长们对它有哪些认识误区呢？

　　【理论背景】

　　“右脑开发”开发些啥？

　　儿童在6岁以前是开发右脑的黄金时期，如果错过这个时期，随着年龄的增长和传统“填鸭式”教育的影响，孩子将会变成只会使用左脑思维的“左脑人”，成为不善于创造、不善于创新的“机械人”。联合国倡导在21世纪全面开启人类智慧工程—————全脑工程。而全脑工程的实质和核心就是开发人特别是儿童的右脑。研究显示，人的左右脑分管不同的功能，左脑称为“学术脑”，主要负责语言、逻辑、数学和分析等功能，简单地说就是运用逻辑思维把事情条理化。在幼儿时期，通过训练孩子背诵儿歌和诗词、学习生字、练习简单的加减法等都能刺激孩子的左脑发育。右脑又称“艺术脑”，主管韵律、图画、想象、情感、创造力。孩子是否具有创造力和想像力，右脑起着重要作用。通过舞蹈训练、画画、听音乐以及让孩子做简单的设计等，都对右脑发育有极大帮助。

　　从手与脑的关系来看，人的左脑支配右半身活动，右脑支配左半身活动。右脑功能的开发和利用，对整个大脑的协调能力、促进思维发展和灵活性有积极作用。如果想充分挖掘大脑两半球的潜力的话，开发右脑很重要，尤其在婴幼儿以形象思维为主的时期更是如此。而0－6岁是开发右脑的最佳时期。

　　【话题质疑】

　　早教理论是否适合中国孩子？

　　资深教育顾问杨雯华认为，孩子的早期教育共性很多，他们有很多共同的特征，这一点中西方孩子没有太大区别，适合国外儿童的教育模式，在某种意义上同样适合中国儿童，这个阶段的孩子就像一张白纸。模式可以引进，但一些内容上的差异还是存在的，相应的调整也是有必要的。早期教育的效果不是短期能看出来的。技能训练、潜能开发是以兴趣为出发点，而不是短暂地掌握一些技能，给家长一种满足感。早教目标是培养孩子的兴趣，激发孩子的兴趣。

　　【专家分析】

　　中国家长有何认识误区？

　　■误区一

　　早教可以创造“神童”

　　杨雯华认为，由于一些父母“让孩子赢在起跑线上”的心愿过强，于是便有了“教育越超前越好”一说，早期教育进入家庭就“演变”成了“超早期的行为能力训练”。很多家长一提开发智力，就认为是教孩子认字学知识，其实教孩子玩耍也是在开发孩子的智力。0-3岁孩子就应该是蹦蹦跳跳、听音乐、走直线、卷地毯的阶段。

　　■误区二

　　玩等于浪费时间

　　很多妈妈一心想让孩子多多识字，于是让孩子做数学加、减题，但孩子却往往不领情，学得不好，妈妈们就急了。要开发宝宝的右脑，最好的办法就是和他玩“捉迷藏”。先把东西藏起来，让宝宝去寻找；或让爸爸躲起来，等宝宝去找。

　　对1-3岁的宝宝来说，这个时期他们左右脑发育已处于活跃期，可以多鼓励宝宝绘画，如果你的宝宝习惯用左手拿东西，不必纠正他。经常让孩子交替使用左、右手，可更好地开发大脑两半球的智力。

　　■误区三

　　越早弹奏乐器越好

　　让宝宝从小接触音乐，并不是要强迫他们学习技能，而是要从生活及游戏中帮助他们学习音乐，要配合一些音乐游戏，刻意、主动地启发孩子对音乐的兴趣，让孩子积极地参与；或经常带孩子到大自然去感受音乐的美，激发孩子对音乐的热爱。孩子3岁时，可以让孩子接触一些乐器，不过孩子尚小，坐不住，理解力也差，还不宜学乐器。此时接触乐器只是让他先有些感性认识，调动他的兴趣，可待他4岁左右再学也不迟。

　　■误区四

　　强迫孩子改掉左撇子

　　善于用左手活动的人，其右侧大脑半球随着时间的推移而发展成为“优势半球”。如果强迫“左撇子”改为右撇子，则已经建立的右侧优势半球要改为左侧，会造成原来的语言中枢功能紊乱而出现口吃，甚至有的孩子出现唱歌时曲调走样、口齿不清、发音不清、不准等现象。

　　【锦囊妙计】

　　怎样合理开发右半脑

　　■刺激指尖法人体每一块肌肉在大脑中都有着相应的“代表区”———神经中枢，其中手指运动中枢在大脑皮层中所占的区域最广泛。现在许多父母让孩子弹琴，实际上就是很好的指尖运动。

　　■借助外语儿童学会两三种语言跟学会一种语言一样容易。如果培养孩子同时学习几种语言，就会“启用”大脑右半球。

　　■体育活动每天跳上半小时的迪斯科健身操、打乒乓球、羽毛球等，在打拳或做操时有意识地让左手、右手多重复几个动作，以刺激右脑。

　　■借助音乐的力量心理学家发现：音乐可以开发右脑。所以父母应该让孩子学习音乐。此外，还可以在孩子从事其他活动时，创造一个音乐背景。

　　开发右脑的简单方法

　　■听童话故事听爸爸妈妈讲故事时，孩子会不由自主地随着情节的发展想象故事中的人物、场面和情景，这对右脑的图形思维能力有很好的促进。

　　■左视野训练指让孩子把头稍向右偏转观察事物，如在楼房屋顶或交叉路口让孩子用左视野观察大街上的车辆等。

　　■下棋教会孩子下棋，锻炼孩子努力记住棋盘上厮杀的局面。

　　■看画和绘画当孩子目不转睛地注视展览会上的绘画作品时，他的右脑正在工作，不必要求孩子注意作者的名字或评价作品的好坏。孩子作画时，则鼓励他们随心所欲。 

Performance Evaluation

 

1.       Job Knowledge: Grasp of standards – procedures & methods of operation. Knowledge thorough enough to perform without assistance.

2.       Quantity of work: Degree to which student meets or exceeds expectations for “normal” production. Turns out good volume according to standards.

3.       Quality of work: Assurance, content and thoroughness of Associate’s work. Almost always acceptable, occasional errors or rejections.

4.       Versatility: Ability to handle new duties and responsibilities or respond quickly and well to changes in procedures or situations. Exceptionally fast to learn and adjust to changed conditions.

5.       Initiative: Degree to which student is self-starter, can work with minimum supervision, and seeks new and better methods to do job, contribute new ideas to the operations. Very resourceful.

6.       Teamwork: Degree to which Associate assists others. How well student gets along with co-workers as well as customers, guests, etc, willingly accepts assignments. Always goes out of the way to cooperate.

7.       Independent Judgment: Ability to tackle new problems and situations and arrive at proper solutions with minimum guidance. Usually is quickly and systematic.

8.       Punctuality & Attendance: Ability to follow given schedule and commitment job. Exceptional never missed a day, never late.

9.       Safety: Ability to follow established safety practices. Good, no injuries, careful, exercises caution, use equipment properly.

10.   Presentation & STAR: Professional appearance includes being well groomed, neat, appropriately attired for the job. Degree to which associate models all STAR standards and understands the philosophy behind STAR. Professional consistent, and full adhere to appearance standards. Good understanding and implementation of STAR.

 

We have reviewed the above and discussed performance over the last period. We have agreed to focus on the following areas:

1.       BWCB

2.       Working with new associates to belong to Sheraton family

3.       Dealing with Guest Complaints to make the right decision

心心，妈妈今天开始给你写信了。今天写这封信给你是因为妈妈觉得很多地方做得不够，做得不好，觉得对不起我的小心心。

在妈妈还完全没有准备的情况下，妈妈就有了你的小哥哥/姐姐小溪，而且自己完全不知道吃了一堆药，害得不敢留下小溪。妈妈自己还是个孩子，完全不知道应付。

有了上一次的教训，妈妈并没有深刻反省，做好准备迎接你的到来。在小溪离开一个半月的时候我又有了你，小心心。妈妈那时侯工作很忙很累，在身体没有恢复得很好的情况下，每天带着你到处翻飞，睡的不好吃得也一般，发现异常都没有时间带你去医院检查。妈妈那时侯就哭啊，怪老天爷不疼惜我们，让我们遭遇这些困难。

在你六周的时候，妈妈终于有了休息的时间，和爸爸在一起。爸爸每天很辛苦地照顾妈妈，给妈妈做饭洗衣还要工作。可是妈妈不听话，爸爸买了很多对你有好处的食物给妈妈吃，妈妈都因为不喜欢就拒绝吃。给坏的是，妈妈没有像别的孩子的妈妈买防辐射的衣衣保护我的宝贝。直到宝贝十四周了才在外婆的劝说下买了那种兜兜。

小心心，你已经二十周了，粗心地妈妈还没有像别的妈妈那样感觉到你的动作和召唤。有点着急了，上网寻找答案的同时，妈妈才发现我了解你太少了。

我这一个多月，总是不有计划地调节自己的情绪，使你在一个温馨安逸的环境长大。

从今天开始，妈妈要修身养性。回家就听一些优美轻快的音乐，读一些宁人的文章，不再急噪愤怒，不再伤感叹息，好好地带着我的宝贝心心长大^_!

今天老Ｊ和我谈到我的成长和变化，说我是性急的一类型，让我克服，不要让客人一下就看到我的焦虑．正好今天看到一个小故事，说得就是这么一回事：

医生的电话铃响了，一位先生在电话中惊慌地说：

＂喂！喂！大夫，请你赶快到我家来一趟！我的儿子不慎将我的微型钢笔吞下去了！＂

＂好吧，我就来．＂医生对那位万分紧张的父亲说．

＂大夫，在你到来之前，我应该怎么办？＂

＂你可以先用铅笔写字．＂

2007-2-26